This is the question that begs to be asked: who are we without our mothers?

More than likely, if you have a narc mom, then you have either a narc dad OR you have an enabling father, also known in the maternal narc world as an EF.

These fathers normally support our mothers with fervor, as they do them (when it suits them).  Both my parents were abusive, and both were enablers of one another.  I very much feel like an orphan.  I have no parents.  No real ones, anyways.

So who am I without my mother?

If you would have asked me that a few years ago, I would have said "Girl Lost", as my name suggests.  But now?  I am no longer lost....I am found.

"I once was lost, but now am found, I was blind, but now I see."

I am not Christian, but I do believe this verse applies to all of us who find out our mothers are narcissists. It says to us "It's them, not us.  It's always been them, even though she tried to convince us otherwise."

So, who are we when we become motherless?  Because when your mom is a narc, you are definitely motherless.  It's just that you never realized it before.  So, who do you become when you realize it?

You become found.