So today was another "fun day with mother" Yay!

So yesterday she calls and leaves a message: "Is my bodyguard still available to take me to the grocery store tomorrow morning? I want to go around 10 am because it's the first of the month and people get their foodstamps and it will be super busy".

1. Huh? Still available? Nobody ever made plans to take her anywhere LOL I asked my son (her bodyguard--she calls him this because some dude was creeping around her house and he chased the guy off) and he said "No, she never asked me to take her anywhere". Okay....

2. 10 am? She KNOWS I will not go anywhere with her that early (not that it's early, it just too early to deal with her bullshit LOL). Nope. Not gonna do it!

So, I call her back, and lied and said "We have a doctor's appointment at 11, so I will call you when we're done, it shouldn't take too long." She says okay.

Then, today, she calls me at 10:06 and leaves a message "I know you told me, but I forgot, what time were we going today? Call me back"

*sigh* No she didn't forget anything. She's being annoying. As usual (especially lately----so many stories are similar to this one, if not worse). I ignore the call--I am in the middle of doing things (read: watching at movie on Netflix dammit!) and come noon, I get ready to leave to go get her. She's retired and has 50 cats---there is NO reason she can't go to the grocery store at noon. And people get link ALL MONTH LONG NOW, which I told her when I called her. Then then she lied and told me she didn't get paid on the first and had money leftover from last month, which I know for a fact she DOES get paid on the first (social security) because I have access to everything in her life. But why even lie about it? Who cares? *sigh*

So, she calls again, YELLING INTO THE PHONE: "HELLO??? HEEEEEEEELLLLOOOOO? IS ANYONE THERE?? If you're going to wait until 1pm, I am not going, so come and get me now!""

I call her right back and say "Um, I told you I'd call YOU when I was done with my appointment, didn't I?"

She replies "Yes, but you said it wouldn't take long!" So, I then realized she was lying at 10 am when she called, saying she forgot what I told her LOL

I replied "Yes, it ran long, but you didn't have to yell at me about it."

She says "I didn't yell!"

I replied "Well, you were you really crappy."

Then she made this childish noise like "AWWW" and then said in another childish voice "I wasn't nice!"

I just sighed and said "I will be there to pick you up" and hung up.

So I made my way to her house and as I was pulling up, she called again (I listened to the message later and she had yelled into the phone "Nevermind!  I don't want to go today!").  So I honked the horn and she took her sweet ass time coming to the car.  She got in and then she REFUSED to speak to us (my son and I).  He asked her "So what are we getting at Aldi?"  She would not answer, so I just started talking to him and ignored her grouchy ass.

As I pulled away, I saw her neighbor/BFF/flying monkey/fellow scapegoat, BM, walking up the street and I drove up next up to her said "Hey! We're going to Aldi!"

She said "Can I come with??"

I gleefully replied "get on in!" haha I was totally going to ask her to come but she asked first Yay! She saved the day! Mother won't be rude to use with her around LOL And then that was it. She changed her attitude real quick after we got to the store.  She ignored me for part of the shopping trip but by the end, she was fine again.

I am looking for a way to find us a new car to buy so we can sell hers back to the dealership and I won't be responsible for taking her EVERYWHERE anymore. 

But for now, it is what it is.  And I am stuck putting up with her crappy behavior.

*sigh* Oh well.  At least I can say that one day went by where I said "thank goodness for BM!"  I'll probably never utter those words again LOL

 

UPDATE 2021: I know this sounds like I was the one being super shitty.  And I was.  But I must relay this to you so you understand: I dealt with (and still deal with) my mother 24 hours a day.  Even when she didn't live with us.  Her rude and demanding behavior gave me horrible anxiety to have to deal with her.  Still does.  And I've lived my entire life hiding from her as best as possible.  Now, I am an only child.  So I cannot rely on any other single person to help take care of her.  So I do end up making things harder on myself, like I did here in this post, because I do not like being commanded around by her.  She does it so much, that I pull back every single time.  Life would be easier if I didn't.  If I just gave in sometimes and let her have her way, things would be easier.  But I am obstinate.  And I resent having to take care of someone who treats me the way she does.  I wish I didn't, but I did and still do.