I just remembered today about mother telling me about her friend's husband (actually it was a mutual friend, but it's a complicated story, so I'll just say her friend).  She told me with rude words that her friend was happy she married a man who couldn't have sex with her.  I am not 100% for sure on this, but it may have been due to her weight (my mom made of her weight all the time, and how she had to sit to do laundry or the dishes or how they had order extra large toilets for their new house because they were both so big) or something similar.  Not that the friend was talking about her weight...no, it would had been my mom saying she was "too fat to have sex so luckily she married a guy who couldn't".  The more I think about it, I am pretty sure that was it.  I am very sure that at one point she literally said "She's so fat, who'd want to have sex with her?"  

Anyways, that was mean enough.  But then she proceeds to tell me that the husband had been molested and raped by his mother so many times and that's why he can't have sex anymore. And it wasn't in a nice tone, she was saying how putrid that was (though it was putrid because that man's mother is a putrid person for having done that, but there was no endearing tone to show how bad she felt for the guy, just how disgusted she was that it had happened).  I know she found him putrid of what his mother did to him, which isn't fair.  But now that I realize this, I realize why my mom treats me so badly about my own molestation and rape--she thinks I am defective because of it.

But my point in posting this to show you all something---do NOT share your private shit with a narcissist.  EVER.  They will tell everyone you know about it.  Don't think that anything you say is sacred, because it isn't.

This is a horribly disgusting way to talk about someone, and she does it all the time.  Nobody is immune.  Even those who are in need of immunity.

Just a reminder.  Leave any private information private around a narcissist.