This is what she said to BM today right in front of me while on the phone with her.  I just stared at her, my mouth wide open.  I then made a loud noise and yelled "YEAH, I WONDER WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU?  I WONDER WHO???"

She refused to even acknowledge what I said or even look at me.  So I went to leave and she said "Oh wait, you can't leave yet, I need you to fix my computer games!"  But then I left the room and heard her say it again to BM. "Yeah, if something happens to you, who will take care of me?"  So I yelled again "YEAH, I WONDER WHO, MA??!"  I wanted to scream.  Or punch someone in the face.  But I didn't, and she never once addressed what she said.  Tomorrow I have to take her to a doctor's appointment for a blood test, and maybe I'll push the subject "I wonder why BM can't take you?  Since she's the one who takes care of you!"  BM doesn't drive btw.  She is the neighborhood leach who only is your friend if you can give her rides or money.

Now that my mom can't do either of those things for her, she barely talks to her.  So what she said to her on the phone was her way of sucking up to her so she stays her friend.  But still, by doing so, she was giving me a HUGE slap in the face by saying in front of me, knowing I am her only caretaker. 

*sigh*  How do I not get pissed and scream at her?  I know she wants me to be angry about it....she was TRYING to make me mad and succeeded.  But letting her get away with it makes me feel horrible. 

UPDATE:  She called and left me a message and said that the reason she said that was because BM was talking about "not wanting to live anymore".  So she KNEW what she did was wrong, otherwise why call about it?  So okay, but why on earth did she say that particular thing?  There were a billion things she could have said.  When I told our mutual friend about it, she blurts out "What on EARTH does she even mean by that?  SHE takes care of BM, not the other way around!"  I agreed.  I also said that BM must have been confused by that remark because she has never once taken care of my mother.  So the only thing we both could think of was that she wanted to piss me off.  Either that or she's delusional.  Which I think I now is both LOL

Also, it's been a few days and she hasn't brought it up and I've cooled off, but I still think she's a total asshole for saying it.

But then, what else is new?