Having a mutual friend with my mother is annoying at times, but at other times, it serves as a great reminder of why I will not go back to having contact with her.

Hearing things through the grapevine is still not 100% no contact if you don't tell your friend to stop telling you things.  And just when I wonder for a moment if she is missing me?  I find out not only is she not missing me, but she's also blaming me for things that aren't my fault.

I told my friend "It's been 45 days since I've spoken to her, you'd think for as much as she's telling people that she misses me, she sure shouldn't be saying things like this."  My friend agreed.

So while I do eventually want to be 100%  no contact, meaning I do not want to even hear about her, right now?  It's helping me realize she's a total douche who will never, ever, change.  That she will talk shit about me until the day she dies.  And that?  Is enough for me to stop caring even if she does decide to make my cousin executor of her will and all that.

Well, for one, I am not getting anything as the government will take all she has anyways.


So what is she blaming me for now?  Well, back in the day, our mutual friend and I and my hubby were in an anxiety support group for four years and the leader of that group stole everyone's stories and put them in a book, without our permission, and published it.  So I got a lawyer to send a cease and desist letter to get our stories removed and that broke up the anxiety group.  So my mother told our mutual friend that it was my fault the group broke up.  Of course my friend told her she was full of shit, but my mother insisted.

I am just happy to know that she's still the bitch I know she is.  I know that sounds mean, but when we go NC with our parents, it helps to know they are still showing their true colors when we aren't around.