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And help out hundreds of thousands other victims of maternal narcissistic abuse in the world? 

Right now, in the world of narcissistic parents, all we have are blogs and groups and some websites that are spaced out away from each other with their information.  And while they give amazing support to the victims of this type of abuse, they do not give you any statistical data.  Mainly, because our mothers do not seek help so there is no data to be recorded.  So, I want to go straight to the victims of this horrible, long-term style of abuse to get the data that this world needs. 

So, I am searching for 100 men and women who have narcissistic mothers to take part in a survey that will be turned into a book in 2018.  The survey will be pretty long, and you can get as detailed (or no details at all) as you'd like. 

There are three reasons for wanting to write this book:

1. I want to give those who feel silenced by their mother's behavior a place to openly (yet anonymously) state what she's done and hopefully give them some satisfaction from seeing their words in print.
2. I want to give accurate stats on how narcissistic mothers treat their children.  I want to show how similar and how different they are.
3. I want others to know they are not alone in this.  That they have a fellow tribe of others who "get it" and know what it's like to be in their shoes.  I want to give people hope, to see there is a way through it all and how to come out the other side with their sanity intact. 

The book will focus on comparing the stats of our mothers, along with side note stories from myself and those that take part in the survey. 


The survey will be long, and it will take you about a week to finish it (or more if you decide to share a lot of your stories).  Or, it could be faster if you just want to answer the survey questions and add nothing extra. 

No last names will be shared.  If you want include a name, it can be your real name, or a fake name.  If you do not include a name on your survey, I will assign your data a fake name.  You can also choose to write personal stories, but not have me include particular ones in the book.

You will get a free copy of the book if you choose to participate.  

Here are the qualifications to participate in this survey:

• You must have a narcissistic mother.  This goes without saying, as it's the basis for the survey itself.  But this also means that you cannot fill it out for someone else (unless they are physically disabled and cannot do it themselves).
• You must commit to finishing the survey.  Anyone who signs up and doesn't finish, will make our entire process take so much longer.  You can take your time in finishing the survey, but you must finish it.  If you don't think you can do this, then please don't sign up.
• You must be truthful in your answers.  No exaggerations needed: their behavior is bad enough without making it sound worse.  The same goes the other way, you must not make excuses for their behavior, either.  If you can't accept your mother is a full-blown narc, then do not participate.
• You must be over 18. I know there are loads of you out there who are under the age 18 and are suffering with a narc mom.  And if you are interested in this survey but are under 18, please message me and you may be able to participate in a future project concerning teens with narcissistic mothers.
• You have to answer every single question, no skipping. You may direct questions about a certain part of the survey to my Facebook page in a private message if you don't know how to answer something.
• You must be available for follow-up questioning.  Most returned surveys will not be questioned, but there may be something that I am confused by that I may need to ask you about after you've returned the survey.  Or something I'd like you elaborate on.  If you aren't available for a follow-up and it hurts the stats of the project, then your survey may be disqualified.

Please direct yourself to my Facebook page if you are interested in this project.  You can either comment on the Facebook post or direct message me there if you are interested in participating.  You will be messaged when the project is ready to go, and then directed the survey for you complete.  I thank you for considering this, as you will not only help me gather useful data to share with the world, but will also be helping so many other victims of maternal narcissistic abuse to understand they are not alone in this.  And we'll be helping to educate the world about narcissistic abuse as a whole (what it is, how it affects us, etc.).