I am taking a mother wound class on Daily Om, and I thought I'd share what I am learning here with you.  The first assignment is to assess what you feel the "mother wound" really is to you.  Mothers can be more than just your actual mother, so you could include people who were like a mother to you, as well as your actual mother.  I was adopted, so I have a birthmother and a mother.  But even though my birthmother and I have issues (I mean, not really, I just feel neglected and judged by her, because she literally doesn't talk to me but maybe once a year and when she does, she dismisses my feelings...no, she's not a narcissist, she's very codependent...her mother is a narc tho, my grandmother, which saddens me to know I was always destined to deal with this crap LOL).  So the question is posed: what does the mother wound mean to you?  

My answer: 

To me the mother wound means...well, I don't exactly know.  I've run many groups for adults with narcissistic mothers and I have a blog, too.  And now when I'm faced to put into words what exactly this means, I don't really know what to say.  It's pain, I know that.  It's a toxic shame that takes over you and tells you "I am not worthy or good enough".  I know today, even though I take care of my mother with dementia, she is still so damn judgmental that I stutter when I talk to her and I fall over my words and feel horrible when she engages me in conversation.  Because I know what's coming.  I know she's going to tell me I am wrong and then say something to prove she's better than me.  73 years old and she still does this.  I don't get it.  I love being a mom.  I could never imagine treating my kids that way.  But here she is, only feeling better about herself when she's putting me down.  I think the mother wound is a deep and gaping wound and is the source for all self-hatred.  

Though I do think the father-wound is also a source of self-hatred.  I think it's both parents.  And usually when you have at least one narc parent, usually both are in on it.  But not always (apparently my birthmother's father, my grandfather, was sweet and kind, but was just severely codependent).  

Anyways, that's what I wrote.  What about you?  What's your definition of the mother wound?  Let me know below.  I'd like to hear what others have to say about it :)  

 UPDATE: This class actually sucks.  Don't take it, it's a total waste of money.  It's waaaaay too short, and has no direction.  And she's coming from the idea that "a wounded mother recreates the mother wound with her own children".  NO.  I do not support that idea at all.  I am a person with a mother wound and I do not recreate that with my children, so obviously our mothers like what they do to us.  Yeah, I wish I could get a refund on this class LOL