So today I had to fix my mother's computer and it's still not fixed so I just bought her a new one.  Because fuck old computers.  They get so damn finicky and don't want to work right.  I don't see how she can stand using hers, and she really can't, so she will be very happy to get this new one in the mail in a few days instead.  Hell, it's better than any computer I've ever owned, so I really hope it works right LOL 

Anyways, she was being annoying again.  Chattering away, like usual.  But for once I tried to look at her with "daughter" eyes rather than "her victim's" eyes.  I see her as an abuser and it's so hard for me to tolerate being around her at all.  But today I realized something: she's freaking demented as hell.  I had no idea just how bad her dementia was getting.  I see her daily, but I don't have long conversations with her, and today I realized her non-stop noise making is her dementia.  It's almost compulsive.  She did open my door again today, but I'll just lock it, rather than get angry with her.  Because she can't hold stuff in her brain for too long, so she won't remember I told her over a week ago to never open my door again (after she let my cat in and I had to chase him around to get him out).  So I'm going to learn to stop getting angry at her and do a few things instead: 

1. I am going to divert her noise making to conversation.  That way she'll want to talk about something, like her cats, and not just making noise for noise's sake.
2. I am going to politely remind her, yet still be forceful enough to make her comply, about leaving the room after she's done smoking outside.  Today I was working on her computer and she came right in after smoking.  I don't think she's always doing it on purpose, but even if she is, I can still stand my ground and ask nicely and push it if she doesn't listen.