Okay, this has happened twice now.  And my Mr. Brooks gave me a great solution.  

So, my mother is a narcissist with dementia.  And her NPD is worse than her dementia at the moment.  So, I fill her meds once a week.  We have two containers: yellow for morning, purple for night.  She takes a LOT of meds.  But I am meticulous about them, even though I am not that meticulous about anything else in life LOL  I count them, I compare them, I make 100% sure they are all exactly the way they are supposed to be, because I have ADHD and I know if I am lazy and don't pay attention, I could mess them up.  But I refuse to mess up her meds and hurt her because I forget a pill or put too many in, etc.  So I have a system to make sure they are 100% right each week.  

But twice now, she's "claimed" I've messed them up.  One time, around 6 months ago, or so, she said I forgot an entire night's worth of pills.  And that's not possible, as I COUNT them as I dole them out.  I could not have skipped an entire day, counting 6 each time instead of 7.  LOL  That's just insane.   Plus, when I am done with each set of them (morning or night), I compare each one to the other, to make sure they all have the same exact number of pills in each one.  I can even tell you which one is which by the size and shape.  So I knew she either stashed them somewhere, or she threw them out.  Why?  I guess to make me look like I messed up?  I don't know.  

But then tonight, she came into the room and said "You're missing a pill in here.  Look!"  And she showed me.  And I opened up the rest of the nights and I saw, sure enough, one was missing.  But then I saw two in another night.  I mean, I never mess them up, but I could see maybe missing a pill on accident.  Or maybe putting two in one.  But both?  Missing a pill and putting two of that SAME pill into another night?  That makes no sense.  I know myself and I would have caught that when I checked them.  I think she pulled out one of tonight's pills and put it in Tuesday's compartment.  But I know there is no way I'd do that.  I have anxiety, and I am pretty OCD about her meds (and I mean that literally, not figuratively) being 100% right, so there is ZERO way I messed up two different days.  

Other reasons I am pretty sure she did it: she doesn't look at her meds when she takes them.  Like, ever.  She just opens them, puts them in her hand, and takes them with water, not even looking at her hand.  She will do this while playing computer games or reading.  So why tonight did she "notice"?  Granted, I am glad she did if it had been my fault, but it's very odd to me that she even noticed.  Then, she opened the other meds to tell me which pill was missing.  Which is also odd to me.  But also, I said "There no way I forgot your pill, I count them when I put them in, and again after when I am done.  It has to be in your room."  And she was adamant that it was not in her room and I had to forget it!  Like, a little too adamant.  Which made me really think "Hmmmm".  But then I looked down and straight away saw that pill in the other night's compartment and said "Here it is.  See?  I didn't forget it.  Someone put it in here," with a smile.  She said "Oh, huh?  I don't know.  Maybe?  Um, okay, thanks!"  And she trotted off to her room to take her meds.  Sigh.  

Now, maybe I did mess them up?  But I highly doubt it.  And if it was her, then why?  Did she think she was going to make me feel bad or something?  But since I know I didn't do it, I don't feel bad at all.  I don't think she gets just how much I pay attention to her meds.  So my hubby said "It's only once a week, just take a picture of her meds each and every week, with a timestamp, and that way you'll 100% know if she's the one messing with them or not."  I mean, I know she is, but she makes me feel crazy!  Esp. the last time before this, there was ZERO way I just skipped a day in her pill organizer.  Esp. since each one only has 7 days.  

I don't want to add yet another thing to my chores I have to do for her, but I guess I have to for my own peace of mind.  And also to prove I dole out her meds properly if she gets it into her head to lie about me taking care of her improperly or something like that (which she's done before).  Ugh.  Why can't we just have normal parents?