These questions come from this article, which is about the mother wound: 

How Journaling Can Heal the Mother Wound (dailyom.com)

I am going to journal them out here, but I did change the wording a bit from "child" to "children", as I am a big fan of IFS, and from that, I know we have "inner children", not just one "inner child".  So, here are my answers: 

1. When you were angry, scared, or sad as a child, who did you turn to?

I would like to say nobody, but that's simply not true.  As a kid, and even into adulthood until 2013 (when I started this blog), I did not realize who my biggest abuser was: my mother.  So, I always went to my mother, who always shut me down.  I was belittled, degraded, told I was oversensitive, or overreacting.  If I had an argument with anyone, she always took their side, no matter what.  She beat me down with her disapproval of me and my full existence.  Which is why I have such issues today with self-esteem.  And not only did she do it all on purpose, she liked hurting me.  She liked to see me feel like shit about myself.  It made her happy. 

2. When you were happy or proud as a child, who did you share those feelings with?

Again, my mother.  Again, who always shot me down.  She told me what I was happy about was not good enough.  She told me I wasn't worth these good things.  I could be so proud of myself over something, show my mother who should also be proud of me, only to have her say "Well, you didn't do the entire thing right, you missed something/did it wrong/etc.".  I wasn't allowed to ever say "I did a good job".  Yet, I still always thought that one day, she'd be a real mother and be proud of me, so I kept showing her and she just kept shooting me down.  She still does. 

3. When you needed advice or support as a child, who did you turn to?

I don't need to keep repeating myself here.  Same as above.  And her advice was always tell to tell me I was wrong or bad or stupid.  

4. What part of yourself was silenced as a child?

My happiness.  My truth.  My big heart.  My smiles.  My pain.  My sadness.  My goals.  My accomplishments.  My heartbreaks.  My sorrows.  My everything.

5. What part of yourself as a child was acceptable to your caregiver?

Any part that was doing as she wanted.  Any part that was perfect.  Which wasn't much.  But sometimes.  And usually by accident.  I eventually got to the point where I hated her approval, because I knew it was fake and only to benefit her.  

6. How did you get through hard times as a child? Who, if anyone, could you turn to?

Nobody.  I turned all my pain and fear inward, into unhealthy and harmful coping mechanisms, like panic attacks and depression. 

7. What do your inner children need most right now?

My inner children scream out for freedom.  They want a fucking break.  

8. What do your inner children need to say to your mother?

Nothing.  I am their mother now.  They understand their mother is sick in the head.  They know that every bit of how she treated them was not their fault and was all about how she was feeling in those moments.  They get it.  But they still suffer.  And they still have wounds and need to heal.  But they can bring those wounds to me instead.  I can help them heal.  My mother is incapable of doing anything at all.  

9. What do your inner children need to say to themselves?

They need to be reminded on a daily basis that they were cool, fun, smart, and awesome.  I would have been a good a mother to them if I had been their mother.  I would have recognized their worth.  I would have helped them chase their dreams.  And I still can.  

10. What are your inner children’s strengths and signs of resilience?

Children are not fucking resilient.  I wish people would quit saying that.  Kids are not fucking walls of steel.  They are great at masking their pain because they don't understand it.  That's not goddammed resilience.  That's denial.  That's burying their pain.  I am here to help them unearth it and deal with it.  As for their strengths?  They are creative, kind, loving, smart, introspective, fun, and brilliant.  Nobody, not a single person, ever recognized those things in any of them.  But I do.  I see it now.  And I love them the way they should have been loved back then.  

11. What are your inner children’s wounds and how can you care for them?

Do you have all day?  Wounds of emotional, physical, and spiritual neglect.  Wounds of being called names and shamed and disapproved of.  Wounds of existing.  Wounds of all types of abuse.  I could go on.  But I care for my inner children by letting them out to play and have fun and be themselves.  I fully accept them for who they are, wounds and all.  I work on bringing those wounds up to the surface to analyze them and mend them.  And when someone triggers me, I try to work through that pain, rather than stuff it back down to fester again.  I am also going to be starting my own in-person healing circle this summer which will encompass an array of different healing methods, one of which will be journaling.  I hope that helps, too.  

To me, this set of questions are a little basic and not exactly the questions I think I would be asking (or at least, not just these questions) to be working on healing.  Most people already know the answers to these, and need something deeper.  But as a start, it's alright.  Link me below if you answer them on your blog :)