Recently, I met a set of sisters at a garage sale they were putting on.  The first time we went there, we chatted them up, and they seemed cool.  Then the second time, a few weeks later, we kind of became "friends".  You know, the kind where you say "Hit me up on Facebook/other social media/etc.".  So I did.  I chatted with the one sister, the one I liked better, about our storefronts and whatnot.  The other sister accepted my friend request (she told me to request her) and said nothing to me and hasn't since.  

Then, I was going to come back to their garage sale two days later, because the one sister, the silent one, was going to bring a whole slew of new vintage linens for me to check out and buy.  But I get there, and she didn't show up, and the other sister never told me she wasn't coming.  So, I wasted my time and gas for nothing.  Then, later that day, someone asked on Facebook if the sister had any linens left, and the sister who was at the garage sale that days said "YES!" and tagged her sister, who said she'd send her pics and she'd ship them to her.  What in the fuck was going here?  

Here's the deal: I do not like feeling ignored.  I do not like feeling like I do not matter.  I do not like feeling like I was the one who asked for any of this.  L, the sister with the linens, told me to come back two days later (this was Thursday).  N, the sister who's house the sale was at, ignored me when I first came back on Saturday, and then I had to say something to her.  Though without prompting she said, "L isn't here yet today with her linens."  So, she knew I was there and wanted to buy them.  I didn't see it as much of a big deal until I later that day saw them both trying to sell them to someone else on Facebook who didn't even live in town and offered to ship them to her! AND here's the kicker: the linens were stored at N's house the entire time!  L just wasn't there to get them out that Saturday.  N could have, but she didn't and blamed it on her sister not being there.  I am so confused by all of this!  Because they surely didn't forget she was promising to sell them to me and I had to drive all the way out to N's house to just be told L wasn't there with her linens.  I am friends with both of them on Facebook right now, and either one could have messaged me and said L wasn't coming.  But nope.  They didn't think about informing them, then posted right where I could see it that they were trying to sell them to someone else.  

THEN on Sunday, the day after, N is in an art show and didn't tell me about it, even though we both were just chatting about our art the day before.  Which is fine, she barely knows me, but it just felt weird, since she never mentioned it while were chatting about our art projects.  No "Hey, tomorrow I am in an art show, maybe you should come see me!"  That would have been a normal thing to say.  

And then another thing: she told me at her garage sale that she hated people.  Which I thought was nice, because I do too.  But then I get on her FB profile and see she's friends with 1000 people.  No joke.  ONE.  THOUSAND.  PEOPLE. Um......what?  The only people I know that have that many people on their FB page are narcissists.  I haven't met a single person yet with a lot of friends on social media who isn't a crazy narc.  But then she posted pictures of her at the art show and I don't mean to be mean, but she spraypainted some dots on some scrap wood (like you can tell they were spraypainted) and slapped a $50 price tag on it.  Most of her "art" was like that.  Oh goodness.  Now we're really get into the nitty gritty here.  She's surely a narcissist, because who thinks so much of art that looks like a kid made it (I am not even joking--I am not an art snob either) to only sell it for that price, but also put it in an art show next to real artists (I saw other artist's art there in pics, they were magnificent).  Please don't think I am being a jerk (I mean, I get it if you think that, because I know it's not right to bash other people's work--but I can't help it here), because what I am getting at, is when I see something like this happen, it's a HUGE red flag for a narcissist.  It's one thing if I just didn't like her art.  That's not what's going on here.  It feels like someone who's just learning how to be creative and now they want to price themselves like people who actually work hard at their craft.  I once met a writer like this once, talking about how she was the best writer ever, and even compared herself to Stephen King (even though I don't like SK, I still think he's a good writer).  Then I read her work, and it read like a rambling incoherent, volatile slew of ideas, rather than actual work.  I was so confused why she thought she was the "best ever" (I didn't know about narcissism at the time).  And yes, that woman turned out to be a total narcissist.  Because only weirdos think they are great when they suck at something.  Non-weirdos are humble about their craft.  I love writing and making art, but I will never tell a person I am good at it.  And I would never EVER be so far up my own arse to think I deserve to be in an art show if my work was in its beginning stage and then brag about it like I am on par with everyone else.  Ugh.  

Sigh.  

And this is why I don't make friends with anyone.  Because people suck.  I do not like having to ask people to treat me with respect.  Nobody should.  And now I have to find a secret way to bow out of our FB friendships.  Or, with 1,000 friends, maybe she won't even notice??  Probably not LOL