I have to remember she's not the same person she was a year ago.  I just don't want to be surprised if she were to do something inappropriate, know what I mean?  I get that she's not the same person anymore, but that doesn't mean she won't revert back at any given moment.  

Okay, so what's going on here is that my son wants his own bedroom.  And my bedroom is smaller than the living room, where he has his bedroom right now.  He doesn't need the entire living room as his room, but my husband and I do.  My son wants privacy, and my bedroom has tons of that.  And everything about this exchange of room is 100% win-win, minus the fact that you have to walk through the living to get out the front door.  And my mom will abuse the shit out of that the minute she knows we're changing rooms.  She's not allowed in my room, she's not allowed to open my door and I've worked on that with her until she finally understood.  I worked hard on that.  And now, it will all just be thrown out the window the minute she knows she can walk through to get out front.  

My son's room used to be in the basement, but it flooded and ruined all his stuff, so he moved upstairs to the living room.  Now, the living room has a lock on it.  So that's something.  But during the day I can't lock my door all day long.  

I did come up with a partial solution: they make ceiling curtain runners that you can shape however you like on your ceiling and you get floor to ceiling curtains and bam!  Wall divider!  

BUT I will lock my door when I am sleeping and when we leave the house.  Because we need to build this boundary in our house that says that the living room is no longer the living room, it's our bedroom and we need to treat it as so.  And the front door?  Is the door that's in our room to leave the house.  If people need to leave the house out the front when we're gone?  They need to use the garage door.  It won't be easy getting it through people's heads, but that's going to be the way it has to be.  The front room is OUR room and is NOT the throughway to the front.  The kids can use it, but my mother cannot.  She's not allowed in our room and that's not going to change just because we move rooms.  

I have a system in my mind setup for how we'll take her garbage for her (her own kitchen bin) and we'll be changing the kitchen around as well.  So that way she can't just bust into our room for taking out garbage.  

Because I am telling you right now, I am NOT starting over again.  She's NOT coming into the room or opening our door, ever.  Unless she's leaving the house with us, and our curtain will be pulled.  

This feels like we'll be starting over again.  But I think we have enough boundaries set into place to keep her at bay.  At least I hope so.