So, today was her doc appointment, and she 100% has emphysema.  

And now, she said to my husband "Well, if she's going to make me quit smoking, I want $50 a month to compensate for me having to quit, so I can spend it on whatever I like!"  

Sigh.  So.....I'm doubling the money I spend (I spend less than $24 a month on her cigarettes) as a bribe?? LOL  How about staying off of oxygen as a prize?  How about being able to breathe better as a prize?  How about not stinking like nasty cigarettes as a prize?  LOL  It's like, I am not paying you to be healthier.  I am not paying you to stop stinking up my house (she smokes outside, but comes in and wanders around and stinks the up the house like cigarettes).  I am not paying you so I can have my windows open, FINALLY!  Yeah, no.  

But see, she knows I am going to say no.  She knows this.  She just wants to make me look like a jerk.  So, if she asks me, I will just smile and say "Well, we'll see."  and leave it at that.  

She has dementia (in case you didn't know).  Which is why I can't let her buy stuff on her own.  She gets to purchase whatever she likes, as long as it's not crazy, already.  I just have to buy it for her.  Otherwise she buys candy (she's diabetic) or buys some random weird shit online (like strange medication, etc.).  So yeah. it's not happening, but she has to try to fight me on things still. Even though she's given up fighting me on everything else.  

Why are they like this?  I mean, I know why, but why does NPD exist?  LOL  I really wish there was a cure.