So, lately my mother has taken to just hanging out in my son's room without permission.  At first, he said nothing about it.  I figured if it bothered him, he would tell me.  But we now switched rooms and she's amped up her crossing his boundaries and now just enters his room without knocking or asking to go in.  He came to me and said "Help!" after she wandered in last night started rubbing his shoulders without asking if it was okay to do so.  So, I created this: 

And I just taped it to his door.  

She does NOT do this to our youngest son.  Only him.  She used to do this to me, but since I put up boundaries with her, she then decided my son would be her scapegoat instead.  And I I am putting an end to it before it goes any further.  

I used to have the same sign (or something very similar) on my door, and it stopped her from coming in.  So, I did not hesitate to put one up for him.  

I KNEW she was pushing me by pushing him, but I didn't want to say anything.  As long as he was okay with it, I figured it wasn't my place to step in.  He's an adult and much of the time, he doesn't want me to make decisions for him, so I don't.  But this time I told him, she won't quit.  It will only get worse and she will eventually enter your room when you aren't there, like she did me.  So he agreed, putting up a sign is best, as telling her verbally what you don't want her to do not only doesn't work, but she will do it more and more the more you tell her not to.  It's crazy!  

She always has to do something stupid around the holidays, right?  

On Saturday I took her Christmas shopping and she asked me "What size do you wear?"  I internally groaned.  "2X" I replied.  And just like I knew she would she said "OH MY GOD, you DO NOT wear clothes that big!  There is is no way!" right in the middle of the store.  Sigh.  I just walked away.  

Then today she said "Do you have more crackers?"  I said yes.  "Oh, I figured you were too busy to get me any and that maybe one day when you went shopping you'll finally get me some more.  It's okay.  It's okay you did that."  "Did what?"  "Not get me crackers before."  Sigh.  

She's obviously in a mood.  

"Are you making your wonderful lasagna for Christmas?"  "No, ma, I am making ham.  It's in the fridge.  It's been there all week."  "Oh.  Well, that's okay."  (thanks for letting me know that's okay LOL).  Sigh.  

I think her BFF Christmas (the person, not the holiday) is angry with me for not letting her come over on Friday.  But I was so pissed that she just showed up, so I knew she would be out and about with her other friend going shopping on Saturday, so I called her house at 1pm, on purpose, knowing she would not be home.  I did this so I could leave a message, canceling her coming over on Sunday (which I had felt pressured into inviting her to).  Why on earth did she think she has the right to come over whenever she pleases?  So, I cancelled on her, because no.  Just, no.  

God damn old women and their insane holiday behavior!  

Oh, my son literally just came in here and said "Grandma is being fucking WEIRD!!  She came into the kitchen while I was washing my plate and she kept touching me and putting her hands up my shirt!  It makes me feel weird!"  He HATES confrontation and also hates when I confront her on his behalf, because that puts him into the position to have to deal with her when she will eventually come to him and ask if what she did was so bad.  So I get it.  She makes everyone uncomfortable.  But this is just gross.  She touches my husband all the time, too.  I tell them both to say "Please don't do that."  But nobody will.  And I won't stand up to her for them, because it makes them feel weird, so I guess she's just gonna be all touchy until she takes it too far and they freak out on her.  But oh well, that's what she gets.  Damn that woman needs to learn to keep her hands to herself  Why are narcissists like this??  I HATE being touched by people I don't want to touch me, so there is no way I would tolerate that.  And guess what?  My mom knows this.  She doesn't touch me unless she's falling I am there to catch her.  But that's it.  

Well, we'll see how this holiday turns out.  I hope it's got minimal weirdness, but with my mom, you never know.  

Well, happy holidays, ya'll!  Hope yours is uneventful and fun!