Well, she's done it.  My husband had had enough of her shit and finally told her to stop.  

Okay, so my oldest son today was talking about how my mother's been putting her hands on him.  In like weirder and weirder ways.  And she's always done that to my husband.  I took my son and put him to our sink and said "This is what she does to Mr. Brooks" and proceeded to walk up behind him and place my hand on the small of his back.  He shuddered and said "God, that's rapey!  That's exactly what narcissists do, they put their hands on you without permission and keep doing it because they think they have a right to do so."  I said "I know, right??  She thinks she can touch whoever she likes, whenever she likes.  So only doesn't touch me because she tried to hit me in the back of the head several times, and I grabbed her arm forcefully and growled at her and said "DON'T YOU EVER TOUCH ME, OR ANYONE ELSE LIKE THIS AGAIN!"  She had a thing for smacking people in the back of the head.  And if you told her to stop, she'd ramp up her efforts and do it 2-3 more times, just to show you she can.  

Well, she's been hobbling her old ass in my son's room, without knocking, and I put a sign up on his door telling her to never enter without permission.  It was the last time she came into his room that she touched him on his shoulders in a weird way, which was when he had HIS final straw.  

So, I told my husband about it and said "Listen, I can tell her all day every day not to touch you guys, but you know she will not listen to me and she will think she can do it when I am not in the room.  YOU have to be the one to say something.  You need to say something like "Please don't touch me, I don't like that" or "AAAHHH!!" and scream and run away."  He agreed that next time he should say something.  I think I put it in perspective when I said "Listen, what if we were living with your crazy parents and your dad touched me like that?  Do you think I should let him do it?"  We both shuddered at that idea.  And I said it would be pervy and if that is pervy, then my mother doing it to him was pervy, too. 

So, a few hours later, after our conversation, she came up to us after eating and started rubbing on my husband's back in sensual way and WOULD NOT STOP.  I didn't know she was even doing it, as I was cooking.  So he said, quite forcefully I might add, "You need to stop that.  I DO NOT LIKE BEING TOUCHED."  I had to hold in my laughter.  She looked as though he had slapped her in the face! HAHHAHAHA!   She said "Oh, sorry" and walked off to her room without a word.  But the minute she turned the corner, I burst out silent laughing LOL  I couldn't help myself.  FINALLY!!  Someone stood up the old beast and she was put in her place with her inappropriate touching!!  My son will get to the point of breaking, too, but today, was just a good day for vindication.  Oh wait, I have one more post about yesterday.  I will post it tomorrow.  Another vindication.  And old wound was healed a little bit more.  Well, rehealed.  As it was something I had already done, but go to redo again.  

And like I said, tonight?  She gets three cigarettes from now on.  And I hope she does it without a fight.