WHY oh WHY did I say anything to her??  Riddle me this, Batman???  God!  Why did I think it would be okay to share something with her???  I thought I was doing something completely benign.  I thought it was just something to say and nothing would ever come of it.  Why did I think that?  Why did I let my guard down and think anything this woman is involved in would be ever be benign??  *sigh*  

AAAAHHHHHHHH!!

For real, why?  I STUPIDLY told her all about the stupid next door neighbor that used to ask me to watch her dog all the time (there are lots of posts about her on here) and how I ended up having to call the police on her and my other neighbor due to them harassing me and my son.  

Why did I tell her that?  WHY???? Stupid!  Stupid!  Stupid!  Stupid! 

Today she thought it would be hot goss to tell her BFF Christmas all about this when she visited today.  I have no idea how far she made up information (which she always does), but Christmas is losing it, so she wasn't listening anyways.  But then I go to go into her room to fix her computer and she stopped me before I got down the hall (Christmas was still here at the time) and said "I don't know if I should tell you my plan.  I told C all about it."  

C:  Plants?  You told me about your plants?

Her:  PLANS!  Not plants!

C:  Plants?  I don't remember what plants you were talking about. 

Her:  NO!  I SAID PLANZZZZZZZZ!  I HAVE A PLAN, REMEMBER?  ABOUT THE NEIGHBOR??

C: Oh yeah.  (How I imagine their dynamic is Walter and Donnie from "The Big Lebowski")

Me:  *sigh*  Please leave this alone.

Her: Why?

Me:  Because this has nothing to do with you at all.  It happened to me, not you.  

Her:  Yes it does.  It's MY house.

Me: What on earth does that have to do with anything?  

Her: Well, I will only do it if I have to.

Me: No you will not.  She's not going to talk to you anyways, so just don't talk to her.

Her: What if she does?

Me: She will not.

C:  Why?  Does she not like your mom?  

Me: *sigh* (it's like poor C is only here for half of the conversation--ever)  She doesn't like any of us.  She won't engage with my mother because she doesn't like any of us.  So this won't even be a problem.

Her: Well, if she does, then I will do it.

Me: NO, YOU WILL NOT.  You will stay out of this, because it didn't happen to you.  It's none of your business.

C: Yeah, you're just going to make it worse.  Stay out of it.

Her: Whatever.

So, this is proof, right here, that she can be mostly silent for almost a whole year and the MOMENT she's given something, she will grasp for the whole world.  She's not content in her smallness.  She's always vying to be on top.  And this was like dangling gold for her.  She will keep trying to grab it until she's destroyed everything around her.  And this is exactly why you never give a narcissist a cookie.  Because they will always want the bakery to go with it.  

At dinner, I will stick around to see if she says more about it.  And when she does (I really really hope she does),  I am going to say "And this is why I don't tell you things.  You take things too far and involve yourself in things that have NOTHING to do with you.  If you want people to share things with you?  You need to stop taking charge of those things as though you own them.  It's not a good trait to have.  Instead, you should listen, and that's it.  Stop spreading gossip that's not yours to spread.  Stop taking charge of situations that have nothing to do with you.  Just stop.  If you can't just listen and let it be?  Then you don't need to be told things.  Period."  

And that's the thing.  I can't expect her not to act this way.  She can't help it.  That's who she is.  So, I just can't tell her things.  Ever.  

I already knew that, but I've slipped a few times in the past few years.  But from now on, I can't do it anymore.  I just can't.  She could fuck up things for us with her big mouth so I have to learn to just not share anything, ever with her.  

Ugh.  Same lesson, different day, right?  It needs to stick this time.